In the world that we live in today, there are many opposing beliefs and such a rampant display of “know it all” theory that it leaves for an immense playground and much room for debate for people to decide what is beneficial and what is harmful to the development of healthy adult individuals. Moral ambiguity and a selfish desire for a world that caters to our every craving is more and more supported by a self seeking majority whom suffer from the unquenchable lusts of their carnal nature, ie. the human ego and primal desires of the most primitive part of our human psyche. We have long forsaken the ideology that insists that the primal and carnal nature of man is the foremost enemy of the progressive individual seeking to live by his Spirit versus his “dark side”, moreover….his impulses.
One such vain imagination is the female representation of supreme lust and self seeking…The Siren. In Robert Greene’s book “The Art of Seduction” the Siren is portrayed as the most potent of female seduction personalities. She is the most powerful poison capable of disarming any man regardless of his life experience, fortitude, or drive to succeed in any particular endeavor. She is the most volatile creature for any man who holds any lofty desire or great ambition for life. And the funny part is that she is only attracted to the type of prey that is destined to make history. Don’t think for a minute that the Siren had any interest in a man who makes no impact on a broader level than his immediate surroundings. There is no glory for the Siren in conquering a commoner, or a mere popper by comparison.
The Siren is the most ancient and the most successful of all seduction personality types. The Siren has to hold an air of supreme confidence and a sexually charged presence when she has an opportunity to corner her prey. The world has long been a place where men have been constrained and circumscribed as Robert Greene puts it, in his aggressive instincts. Everything must be made safe and secure by men, he is to bare the load of pressure and responsibility. Men are required to be reasonable and sensible, appropriating their primal impulses to be quenched by war, political intrigue, conquest and ambitious endeavors.
The key is for the Siren to capitalize on these instincts and to offer the prey an escape from the burdens of everyday responsibility. She must find a way to steal the mans attention as to where he then has no outlets for his aggression and his desires turn inward and begin to gnaw at him. Have you the reader ever noticed that when you are hard pressed to complete a task, or set forth on a mission to advance in any particular arena, a Siren finds you irresistible and fights for the attention that you give whatever passion you are pursuing? A Siren cannot bare for sailors to pass by without them desiring to feed her desire for attention, her song calls for an audience. She lives in a very lonely world that requires a break in her loneliness so that she doesn’t have to bare it alone.
The irrational of life is so very tempting as it offers a casting of restraint, satisfying that carnal desire we carry to feel burden-less. The Siren operates on a mans most basic instincts, she has the power to turn what is typically a strong, responsible, and driven male into a confused child with no bearing and no cares for the worries of today. She has the ability to seem as a “Never Never Land” that he can run to where no one will trouble him. And these tricks of hers come naturally, a seductress does not have to have a malicious agenda, it’s within her nature to seek what feeds her vanity and desire to be accompanied in her realm. A Siren doesn’t always know she’s a Siren, she simply….is. This all stems in modern days from a lacking in her own soul, caused either by a repressed desire for love, or a wound caused by an unsatisfied love. This wound or void causes her to utilize whatever method gives her the desired result.
The Siren tends to be much more successful on the masculine type, but she has a keen ability to quickly seduce a man of reason, an intellectual in his right. The intellectual is more often than not the most susceptible to the Sirens call offering pleasure, escape, and casting off of responsibilities because he is so held to that mold by himself most of all, but it’s required of him by life itself. The truth is this though, the Siren has nothing to worry about when it comes to choosing a victim that will play into her hands, her magic works on anyone willing to entertain her guises.
The Siren must set herself apart from other women. She must carry a highly feminine presence and a sexual undertone that can never be exposed as such. She has to seem “different” from all other women. To stand out as distinct from all other women within her circle is key, she is unique, and a prize to behold. She has to at the very least seem uniquely different than the women you are accustomed to, so as to seem like a change in a constant. When a women says, “I’m not like other girls” and you catch yourself agreeing that she is undeniably different, proceed with extreme discretion. A woman that is truly unique need never express it, this should be evident after time, time reveals all truth. There are not so many differences between women on such a grand scale that they are the end all and be all of women. A woman is a woman, but is she the right woman for you? That’s the question to ask. The Siren would like to appear as a rare thing, the only one to any particular group. Because a Siren is a sight to behold, and men are visually stimulated, it is imperative that a Siren concentrate on a presence that causes an overall experience that is almost like a caricature, childlike tendencies, cute anecdotes, cartoon like sneezes or other human experiences, she must seem dainty and demure. Most women lack the confidence to portray such an image and consider it to be off-putting, simply because they often think themselves “above this” and don’t want to be discovered for a lack of genuineness or for “trying to hard”. But we men are suckers for these little subtle tricks.
Once the woman has made herself to stand out from other women, her next move is to get the man to pursue her with such fervor and intensity that he looses control of his own sensibility and reason. Within this there must be a touch of danger, a relinquishing of everyday responsibilities and common sense. If there is danger and risk involved, the pursuit is that much more seductive. There is something very enticing about danger to men whom are expected to avoid it at all costs, danger is surprisingly seductive to men, beyond reason. To get the victim to pursue her is very easy for the Siren, all it requires is a highly charged sexual presence of the kind where she doesn’t seem like a whore, or in modern terms a “slut” as most women refer to those types that they wish not to exemplify for the frowning upon of a “dignified” society. So, be very sexual in your approach, but never appear to be a loose woman. If you can cause the man to pursue you, and constantly seem as though you are avoiding sexual interaction….the war has been won. You are innocent yet alluring, sexual yet refined in your reluctance to give in to carnal desire. If a woman is discovered to be a “loose woman” by the mans standard, he will quickly loose interest once he has attained her, she is to always be elusive, and distant. This stirs a desire in the man to conquer her, to woo her into submitting to his advances. The more distant and aloof she can maintain herself, the more this will frustrate the man as it will confuse him and cause a prick to his ego, making him question whether or not her is worthy to have her. When a man feels inadequate, he longs to prove his worthiness and ability to be qualified. Once again she is playing at his most primitive mental processes, she is causing a regression such as when he desired to please his mother whom always demanded so much of him, in line to be a man one day.
This Siren, this seductress must resemble an ideal. Whether it be a movie star, a singer, a model, a muse of any type, a strong leader that others admire, a ballerina, a fitness guru, a Yogi, a lifeguard, a painter, anything that inspires awe in the one to behold her, she must resemble some archetype that the man wishes to be identified with. It must fulfill an aspect of what he sees in himself, it must satisfy a desire in him to be proud of his prize, she is always a prize to be won after all. The more vehemently he has to pursue this archetype, the greater the pride in having attained her, as well as his belief that he is acting on his own initiative and will. Not succeeding would mean that he was less than the man capable of doing so. To create this initiative within the victim is the most effective way of disguising how deeply she is manipulating him. As I said, a Siren doesn’t always have malicious intent, she may not know she’s employing the power of a Siren, but when a woman knows what she wants, and when she sees a result, she is unknowingly attaching strings to the mans feeble will as she sees the results of a particular set of actions. The notion of danger, a conquest, challenges, are so alluring to a man, especially the old fashion chivalrous kind of men we portray as the ideal in Hollywood, men tend to take notes from Romantic Comedies and Love Stories. When the element of danger or possible loss is present, it adds emotional spice and excitement, a thrill to the chase that we love so much. In a place and time this day and age when we as men are so repressed and expected to be reasonable and rational, this is the change up we crave in a monotonous array of daily occurrences.
This lathering on of risk and danger was present in the original Myth of “The Siren”. In Homers Odyssey, Odysseus must sail by the caves and rocks where the Sirens dwell. From this place of supreme danger is where they sing their songs that beckon sailors to their death. They sing of past conquests and glorious exploits, they sing also of a world without cares or concerns. They free the prey from his responsibilities, offering a “Never Never Land” of sorts where she will help him to discover what he truly longs for….pleasure and rest. She promises the sailors that she has all the answers that he desires, she will free him from concerns and worries of everyday living, she’ll be the resolution he seeks in his journey. Their voices were soft, soothing, an inviting liquid like a quenching water, smooth and serene. Sailors would leap into the water to join them and drown. They’d be caught in a trance and be crushed by the rocks. To protect his sailors and to live to tell the story, Odysseus had all of his sailors plug their ears up with wax while he was then tied to the mast so that he could live to tell about the experience. This was considered a strange way to go about it since the thrill of the Siren is to give in to the temptation of following her, something he knows he shouldn’t do, but leaves him with a wonder of, “How bad could it be?” It leaves for an appeal as we humans have an innate desire for the forbidden.
Like the sailors of ancient days, we are required to steer and sail a straight and narrow path in life avoiding distractions and pitfalls. The allure of something dangerous, mysterious, unknown, and emotionally engaging is extremely powerful because it is forbidden fruit. A man is consumed by a Siren but cannot tear himself out of her grasp. The most strong willed men, the head strong leaders, men in positions of power, these are truly the weakest. The stronger the personality, the more susceptible to the Sirens magic as these men tend to have a masochistic streak. As boys these men also had strong wills, and when the dominating force in their life, the mother, put her foot down he often tested the waters simply because of his desire to challenge himself more so than the authority his mother wielded. He wants to be the exception to the rule, he desires to prove himself so as not to feel weak in his own skin. Danger enhances all of the Sirens other characteristics and promotes a powerful hold on a man.
Sirens are very often incredibly irrational which is extremely seductive to men of reason and logic, who don’t stand a chance against the lure if they try to make sense of everything. Within this irrational aspect to the Siren there is a fear that is created. This fear is critical to the powerful hold she has on a man. She has to create an atmosphere of switching back and forth between approval and displeasure with the man, causing him to respect her. With this respect and reverence comes a desire for him to please her but still allow her space. If she can keep him on his toes in complete fear of causing any distaste, she can assure his constantly walking on eggshells so as not to “turn her off.” She must intimidate him with capricious behavior, dismissing him, not responding to his advances or showing any reciprocity towards his loving gestures or thoughtful gifts. This keeps him wondering if he is worthy of her, it causes him to try, and try, and try even harder. With so much invested he hates to give up the pursuit for not wanting to quit when he ALMOST has her, or so he thinks. She as the expert manipulator must show displeasure after satisfaction, this will forever confuse him. The more she punishes him with insatiable expectations, the more he will fall into her complete control as he waits on her move, or her guiding to show him what she desires. He at this point has been….mastered.
The absolute most important element for an aspiring Siren is always going to be the physicality of her nature as her most powerful tool. She must never be too obvious but instead subtle and tapered back in her display. Heightened femininity, evoked thru her clothing, jewelry, make-up, hair, subtle scents, and even the way she moves are so very powerful because they hold no true meaning to a victim. These things bypass the senses and any mental process. Think about the effects a decoy has on an animal, or the way that a cape captures a bulls unconscious drive. It’s the same thing with a Sirens presentation.
Now, a Sirens appearance is often thought to be that of a stars brilliant beauty, namely the face, but this is not the case with a Siren. A gorgeous face doesn’t make for a Siren, in-fact, quite the opposite. A beautiful face makes for distance and a frigid presence, this woman is unapproachable. Cleopatra and Marilyn Monroe are the two greatest Sirens recorded in history but were not known for their beautiful faces, this would then dominate their appearance which would be too obvious and direct. A Siren typically has a face of average beauty, but she engages and stimulates a very generalized desire by creating an overall presence that is both alluring and one that distracts her victim. This process is similar to one spiders use who lure their prey with dances and disguises that confuse their unsuspecting prey. It is never one particular trait but rather a combination of qualities that are presented ever so subtly, they must never be noticed.
The voice of a Siren is a very powerful element, which is clearly a very critical weapon. The legend tells of the Sirens voice which has an immediate animal presence and an incredibly suggestive power which her victim cannot miss. The power seems to be regressive, which most women are VERY aware of. The “momma voice” has whipped many a man into submission or at least immediate compliance. Either this, or the voice calms or excites the man in the same fashion it did as a child before the child had any clue what the mother was even saying. A somewhat “mother like” tone, even if condescending causes a regression where the man unconsciously begins to make decisions from a point of submission, desiring to please. Within this commanding subtlety, there must remain a hint of the erotic, as if to please her is proceeded by reward in some form or fashion, this must be subliminal and not overt.
Cleopatra was constantly talked about and people would regularly comment on her “sweet and delightful voice”. She was said to have mesmerized with her soft and slow form of speech, the ring of her laughter was said to resonate a childlike joy thru a room, inevitably captivating the hearer. The Empress Josephine Bonaparte was one of the greatest seductresses of the late 18th century who was said to have a languorous voice that men found exotic and suggestive. Marilyn Monroe had a breathy childlike voice that she later lowered to increase it’s seductive allure. Lauren Bacall’s voice was sultry and low, and it’s powerful ability to seduce came from her low and suggestive delivery which is typical of a Siren. The Siren never speaks quickly, she takes her time when talking, she’s methodical and intentional with how she speaks. The voice must lull, the adornment must captivate, and she must keep the victim guessing as to whether she is pleased or not.
Baudelaire put it this way in his essay ‘In Praise of Make-Up’, “Woman is well within her rights, and indeed she is accomplishing a kind of duty in striving to appear magical and supernatural. She must astonish and bewitch, an idol must adorn herself with gold in order to be adored. She must borrow from all the arts in order to raise herself above nature, the better to subjugate hearts and stir souls. The key, everything must dazzle but also be harmonious, so that no single ornament stands out.”
So ummm….do any of you know any Sirens? Have any of you acted as a Siren, intentionally or unknowingly? This Siren is the number one female embodiment of a cancer that ruins good men. All she desires is to fill her time, to avoid solitude, to have someone hear her song and praise her as a Goddess. She longs for someone to praise her for how wonderful she is instead of waiting for the appropriate form of reverence and love. The unfortunate aspect of her seemingly natural and innocent desires, is that she has the need for a mans very essence, she needs him to abandon the cares of his life, his responsibilities and call, and replace those cares….with her, thereby stripping him of his very identity and purpose. Well, being that she can never be the source of life for him….he will eventually die because of BOTH of their lustful desires which can NEVER be satisfied in this fashion. The only way for them both to be fulfilled….is to die to themselves and relinquish all self seeking desires. For both, it’s their inward focus and their self seeking that brings them to their demise. So, good luck with that pursuit. Lemme know how it works out for you.
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